We're white shirt award winners in the June issue of Real Simple! You can read the online article here:

A well-fitting bra makes our button front shirt fit busty women even better. We showed you why here and here, and we think our advice on how to find a good fitter is still spot on. But when it comes to finding someone to fit you remotely, both our suggestions have since closed their virtual doors.

After we recommended My Bra Concierge last September, the founders decided to shutter the business to focus on their day jobs. That's when we FINALLY remembered the fabulous fitter we should have endorsed in the first place: Lion's Lair Boutique. As founder Kim Berger told us, "What we do IS our day job and we've been hard at it for 22 years."

There are no surveys or algorithms involved, yet an industry insider once told us, "Bra fitters can’t get much more analytical than Kim." The store will put you in the right size on the first try 90% of the time simply by discussing three numbers with you:

The Myth of the Nice Girl is for anyone who has ever received the backhanded compliment, "You're too nice!" The book could just as easily have been titled "The Celebration of the Nice Girl" because author Fran Hauser believes that women who genuinely care about others have a super power, and she's here to help them own it--beginning with five great responses to somone whose idea of "nice" is either too vague to be helpful or contrary to your values:

1. "I know, and it's really served me well."
2. "Don't mistake my kindness for weakness."
3. "You say that as if it's something negative."
4. "I've come to realize that it is actually possible to be nice and strong. They are not mutually exclusive."
5. "It's better than the alternative . . . who wants to deal with a jerk?"

Practical advice like this list is one of the best things about The Myth of the Nice Girl. Hauser even includes the exact wording of a networking email that caught her eye in her inbox! You'll also find:

Fist bumps are great. Shoulder bumps from a wide hanger, not so much!

For years our company hung our classic white shirts for bigger busts on standard slimline hangers. However, as we prepared sample shirts for pop up shops, the only things that always needed ironing were the shoulder bumps and the weird vertical creases they caused below them. Our shirts come in 24 bust-friendly sizes, so we were ironing 48 sleeves before every event!

We searched high and low for an alternative and found four great options that we're sharing with you . . . because some mornings even one sleeve is too much to iron.

Our Favorite: Only Hangers Petite Wooden Suit Hanger

We dare you to find another suit hanger that is only 15 inches long--we searched everywhere for this one. With its petite length, this hanger falls perfectly at the shoulder seams of our size 8 shirt (which measures slightly more than 15 inches across the shoulders). In the photo above, it's the second from the left. See what we mean?

Two things are sure to make a big-busted woman gasp, "I could never wear that!"

A dress with no back . . .

and a dress with almost no front.

After a buttondown shirt that won't gap, women with large chests tell us that finding an evening gown to fit is one of their biggest challenges. Fortunately, not all glittering gowns are off limits to D cups and higher, and we've culled looks from full-busted celebrities on this season's red carpets to inspire you. Some are custom-made wonders, but many work with a simple strapless or even a regular full-bust bra.

BRALESS OPTIONS

Wearing a custom Vera Wang gown to Sunday's Oscars, the press made a big deal of Taraji Henson pulling the Angelina Jolie leg bomb, but anyone who has a large chest will make a big deal about the bodice instead. There is not a single bra strap or band in sight, yet Taraji definitely wears at least a D cup. How did Vera Wang do it?

As you might suspect, there is definitely fashion tape involved. In blue below, we've outlined one of the little bra pads that keeps Taraji's lifted shape. Only double-sided tape will keep her large breasts from spilling out of them.

We asked a few of the women who wear our bust-friendly shirts what books they would recommend to other women setting goals in 2018. Read their thoughtful replies, plus a review of our own book recommendation, below.

The Gratitude Diaries by Janice Kaplan. "A wonderfully inspiring book that helps us focus on the small details that we overlook when evaluating our lives." Candy Gould, Personal Color and Style Consultant, House of Colour Manhattan

The On-Purpose Business Person: Doing More of What You Do Best More Profitably by Kevin McCarthy.  "It shows you how to blend the professional and personal lives, especially since they overlap at times." Sandi Webster, Managing Director and Co-Founder, C2G Partners

Made to Stick by Chip and Dan Heath. "I've been using [this book] in my classes for years. How to speak so that people will remember what you’ve said. Very accessible, useful." Barbara Mink, Communications Professor and Artist

The Nightingale of Mosul by Susan Luz. "A memoir based on a life of dedication, sacrifice and adventure that really struck a chord for me." Barbara Graveline, Co-Founder and Designer, Nodding Bur Originals

When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanthi. "It has the most profound meaning and helped me understand the point of life is not happiness, but striving." Danna R., medical professional

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If some of your goals are a little too familiar to the ones you've set before, then we highly recommend Tasha Eurich's book Insight: Why We're Not as Self-Aware as We Think, and How Seeing Ourselves Clearly Helps Us Succeed at Work and in Life.

In a book dense with suggestions, here are two tools that jumpstarted my (founder Darlene Campbell's) new year:

We were wrong when we thought life couldn't get any better than a classic white shirt. This spring we discovered that our mill makes stretch cotton shirting in stripes! It took a corporate chef to get things cooking. After we sized her into a 12M at our July pop up shop, she created this combination to wear when dignitaries visit her company.

An elementary school principal came up with this playful yet authoritative look.

When you send us your measurements and bra size, we love sending you a bust-friendly shirt to fit. But when your waist measures 33" or less and you tell us you're wearing a bra with a 36 band, we wish we could send you a new bra, too!

That’s because your band is probably too loose, and in this post, we explain why a loose band is a bad deal for a big bust. We run into this so often that we bring a range of bra sizes to in-person fittings for our button down shirts for busty women.

Here’s the difference that the right bra made for a recent full-busted customer with a 31" waist and a 40" bust. In both photos she's wearing a size 8L shirt. The only difference is the bra. By switching from a 36DD to a 32G, she didn’t have to go up a shirt size!

Victoria’s Secret and most department stores don’t carry the small-band-large-cup combination that fuller busts need, so if we can find a reputable lingerie store in your area, we’ll tell you about it. Unfortunately, sometimes the closest store with a good bra fitter for a big bust is hours away.

UPDATE: Originally, this post recommended My Bra Concierge, which has since closed its doors. Keep watching this space for our new go-to for best remote bra fittings. SEE THIS POST for why we now recommend Lion's Lair Boutique!

That’s why we’re thrilled that My Bra Concierge, the online bra startup that we wrote about in May, is now live. We recently tested their service and came away with great-fitting bras we never would have tried otherwise. Here's why we're happy to recommend My Bra Concierge to our customers:

We're excited to get back to where it all started. Nine years ago, founder Darlene Campbell was working as a corporate attorney in Midtown Manhattan, dreaming of creating button front shirts for busty women who wanted all the power markers of a classic white shirt without the power detractors of baggy shoulders or a safety pin. This Wednesday and Thursday, she returns to Midtown with dream shirts in hand.

You'll find her at Gabrielle Carlson Studio, where designer Gabrielle Carlson has a singular mission: "Beautiful clothes, in your size." Using exquisite fabrics, Gabrielle creates elegant garments for women of all shapes, and we are thrilled to be part of her mission this week.

Visit us for a fitting this Wednesday and Thursday, July 20 and 21, between 10 am and 6 pm. Gabrielle Carlson Studio is located at 501 Lexington Avenue at 47th Street.

Here’s a guilty secret: we asked lingerie store Bra Spectrum to host our June pop up shop because we have been wanting to try their hard-to-find brands for years. So between bust-friendly shirt fittings for our large-chested customers, we had our own fittings into the amazing bras of Corin and Nikol Djumon. Manufactured in Poland and Latvia respectively, these two brands are worth a trip to any store that carries them.

You can tell that Corin is serious about bras for large busts because they provide their very own busty mannequin to display them. Of course we’re super proud that our size 12M fits her!

Both companies produce their version of a spacer bra that is slightly minimizing and produces a seamless look under our classic dress shirts for large busts. If you’re looking for the security of fuller coverage, we recommend the Corin Virginia (on the bottom).